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Overcoming addiction to pornography
and "similar addictions"

One of the most common questions asked relates to overcoming the addiction to pornography and what one might call politely "related addictions". It is not a beautiful subject, and if it does not apply to you, then praise Allah that He has not tried you with something He has examined so many of His servants.

Pray! The following Du'a was made by the Prophet s.a.w. for a boy who longed to commit Zina. Only the first person was replaced with the third:

Allaahum-magh-fir dhan-bi wa tah-hir qal-bi, wa hassin far-ji

O Allah, forgive my sin, clean my heart and protect my chastity. (1)

Or the following:

Allahumma in-ni a'udhu bi-ka min shar-ri sam?i, wa min shar-ri basa-ri, wa min shar-ri li-saani, wa min shar-ri qal-bi, wa min sharri mani-yi

O Allah, I seek refuge with you from hearing evil, and from seeing evil, and from speaking evil, from the evil of my heart, and the evil of my carnal desires. (2)

One should recognize the severity of sin in general and the severity of this particular sin and develop a hatred for it one's heart. Allah has told us that the rightly guided people hate defiance and disobedience.

... but Allah hath endeared the faith to you and hath beautified it in your hearts, and hath made disbelief and lewdness and rebellion hateful unto you. Such are they who are the rightly guided. [Hujurat 7]

One should develop a revulsion from this kind of disobedience, whatever temporary pleasure that it gives. This, in itself, is a struggle, so don't expect it to be easy.

One should check one's prayer. Whenever one falls into sins, which can be termed as " fa?shaa " - immorality - you have to ask yourself whether there is something missing in the prayer: missed prayers, delayed prayers, not responding to the adhaan, and prayers without concentration are all a problem. Prayer prevents immorality and wrongdoing, so if it isn't doing the job, then it's most likely not being done in the right way.

Lo! worship preserveth from lewdness and iniquity, but verily remembrance of Allah is more important. And Allah knoweth what ye do. [Al-Ankabut 45]

One should repent at once, and this repentance should be sincere: one never does it again, and one implores Allah to help one. Yes, it is possible that one slips and falls again, but the stronger the determination to leave this sin, the better it will be.

One should separate oneself from the things that make one commit this sin, even if it means that one exchanges the smartphone for a simple mobile phone, disconnects from the broadband, moves the computer into the living room or does something else. When one is serious about repentance, one is ready to take serious steps. One should also consider whether "adult-content" can be blocked by settings on the computer, e.g. with a random, long password that one can not remember and does not record. Certainly, these are only small measures, and a determined person can by-pass them, but the more one does, the harder it will be, and the more determined you become yourself.

One should be around good people. These sins are sins that are almost exclusively committed alone. The less you are alone, the better the chance of breaking the habit. Consider sharing your room, if that's an option; share your phone and computer with others, so that there is less privacy.

But if one is alone and is afraid to fall back into sin, one should not let this thought run its course, but one must get up and leave the private place to break the habit. It is not a substitute for the fear of Allah, but it is a temporary measure that can take you away from the sin you had intended.

One should regularly fast - at least twice a week, and if one can and if necessary, even every other day. The Prophet s.a.w. explained that this restrains the desires, so it is worthwhile to integrate the fast into the overall solution.

If one feels that this problem might be associated with Jinn, one should start with the 7-day program and then go to the full Ruqyah program if required. It is rare that these problems are caused solely by Jinn, except in extreme cases. For most people, the Jinn simply uses the already existing desires, which is why one should primarily master these desires.

Of course, marriage also protects against such desires, but it is not an option for most people at the time of their problems, or they are already married and still have these problems.

Footnotes:

  1. Ahmad 22211
  2. Abu Dawood 1551 At-Tirmidhi 3492 An-Nasa'i 5444, 5455

Jinn attacks at night

Night attacks and sexual assaults by Jinn are reported by a number of patients, and undoubtedly this is one of the most distressing things a patient can suffer. Most patients who report it are women.

These attacks almost always take place during the night while one is in bed, and most often when no one else is in the room. These attacks differ from dreams in the sense that the victim is often awake, as well as the fact that pain and physical effects such as rape are often present the next morning; however, some people experience the same feelings and images as part of a dream, either with or without physical trauma, and the following advice is appropriate for both cases.

Regarding the Islamic faith and what the scholars have said about Jinn, there is no reason to deny that these attacks can take place, both through the medium of dreams and during being awake. This is consistent with what we know about the Jinn, and the reports are numerous and intrinsically trustworthy.

With regard to preventive measures, there are a number of things that can be done both general and specific. The general measures have already been dealt with in the previous chapters, namely the general protective measures and the 7-day Ruqyah program. The following are recommended as specific measures:

If one is already strictly adhering to the protective measures, has removed everything from the house which attracts Satans, and recites the recommended Adhkaar, especially those which are said in the morning and in the evening, and those which are said before going to sleep, one can also do the following:

  • The supplication, which refers to the overcoming of an enemy to be said when you are in fear of an attack taking place (such as before sleeping, or when waking up suddenly at night) or during an attack:

    Allaahumma innaa naj?aluka fie nuhurihim, wa na?udhu bika min shururihim

    O Allah, we set you before them, and we seek refuge with you from their evil. [Abu Dawud 1537; Al-Hakim 2629]

  • Taking a Ruqyah bath before sleeping, as described in a previous chapter.
  • Rubbing oneself with Ruqyah oil before sleeping. The production of the Ruqyah oil is described in a previous chapter.
  • Waking up for the night prayer (Tahajjud), for when Satan knows that one is responding to night attacks by doing one of the greatest voluntary forms of worship, then the incentive to attack one becomes considerably less; not to mention the general virtue of praying the night prayer, in terms of acceptance of supplications, and so on.
  • Observing the etiquettes of bad dreams and nightmares, for those who experience attacks as part of a dream. See the chapter "Sleeping Etiquettes" in appendix. Try to recite the verse of the throne 11 times before going to sleep.
  • It is possible that having someone else in the room at night may help. There is no confirmed evidence, and it does not seem to affect the dreams, but it seems that people who suffer physical attacks while they are awake are mostly people who sleep alone, so it's worth mentioning here, without giving too much importance to it.
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